How to Know if Your Relationship Is Healthy
If you’re wondering how to know if your relationship is healthy, that should be the first clue that maybe it’s not.
Healthy relationships are not just fulfilling and happy, they inspire confidence in the people involved in them. Happy, healthy couples seldom have to ask if their relationship is healthy.
The fact that you’re reading this means that you might be involved in an unhappy, unhealthy relationship. What are some other ways to tell if you and/or your partner are happy and healthy?
Sounds simple enough, right? Sit down and talk with your partner. It’s reasonable to ask your partner if they’re happy. Strong relationships can withstand conversations like this. In fact, these kinds of talks are necessary to lasting relationships.
When it’s time to sit and talk to your partner about how happy or healthy they feel the relationship is, use plain English and get right to the point. Then the two of you can talk about your own feelings and decide on a course of action together.
It isn’t enough to talk back and forth at each other. You need to learn to listen too. Listening doesn’t just mean letting sounds hit your eardrum and waiting for your turn to talk. Listening means taking what your lover says and internalizing it and trying to feel that emotion with them. When you talk, you want your partner to listen to what you have to say and to respond, right? Do the same thing for your lover, and you’ll be amazed how much communication the two of you start to share.
If you use these first two steps, you’ll never have to ask if your relationship is healthy again. The two of you will know it’s healthy.
3. Read Body Languagee
If you’re still having trouble with feelings about the health of your relationship, it may be time to start using and reading some non-verbal clues. Look at the way your partner holds their body: are they acting slow, making slow movements, wearing frowns on their faces, or looking about nervously? You can tell when someone is distressed, unhappy, or is feeling like they need to “have a talk”. It is all in a person’s body language. Pay attention to what your partner does with their body and you can communicate with them without even opening your mouths.
This should be your last move. If you want to know if your partner thinks your relationship is unhealthy, you can use your investigative powers. Ask your lover’s friends, talk to your own friends about it, and pay close attention to any little clues your lover leaves around. Sometimes something as simple as a “I ran to the grocery store” note can speak volumes about a person’s satisfaction with their relationship. Use your snooping skills to figure out if your partner or you feel that your relationship is unhealthy.
That’s all there is to it. Opening up lines of communication with your lover is itself the first step towards a healthy relationship.
Resource: The Complete Idiot’s Guide to Healthy Relationships–this is available from Amazon for less than $20, and it’s worth every penny. (We even get a small percentage to help pay our hosting fees.)